Sample Agreements for Relationships

• We agree to make our relationship a priority.
• We agree to do whatever it takes to make our relationship mutually satisfying.
• We agree to use our relationship for the purpose of personal and mutual evolution, empowerment, nurturing, and pleasure. This includes the following: Knowing we are all doing the best we can with the resources we have available to us.
• Encouraging each other’s prosperity and success.
• Acknowledging each other frequently.
• Emotionally supporting each other.
• Being personally responsible for our own experience
• Empowering each other to be all we can be.
• Being honest in all ways.

• We agree to communicate through upsets until they are resolved to our mutual satisfaction.
• We agree never to use the “silent treatment.”
• We agree to always tell the truth about our thoughts and feelings.
• We agree to be responsible in our communication (i.e., to speak in “I” sentences and not to cast blame).
• We agree to share our resentments and upsets daily with each other.
• Before blaming the other, we agree to spend time looking at what’s going on with ourselves first (e.g., using the Co-Creator Upset Resolution Exercise: CURE).
• We agree not to interrupt each other.
• We agree not to offer “constructive criticism” when angry or upset.
• We agree not to use physical violence.
• We agree to seek outside support when we are stuck.
• We agree not to make major decisions when we are upset.
• We agree to correct mistakes rather than punish them.
• We agree to learn from the upset.
• We agree to work on resolving issues from the past.

Agreements are always open for renegotiating!! Change agreements if they aren’t working.

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