Positive Discipline for Your Elementary Age Child

The child who knows that he is loved is able to accept his parent's guidance without hostility and resentment and understands the difference between free choice and boundaries.

• Always treat their children with respect no matter how frustrated or disappointed they are;
• Avoid all "put down" actions and language;
• Remain emotionally accessible;
• Maintain a sense of humor;
• Are confidential. Gaining your child's trust should be at the top of your list because a great inhibitor for our children is the fear of being exposed or embarrassed.

• Foresight – it's important to set family rules before discipline situations occur. Once a problem occurs you have to go into crisis control and teach the desired behavior later when things are calmer.
• Empathy – "Yes, I am angry… I know that you are capable and competent".
• Good communication Skills – let them know why you are saying "no" and what they have to do the next time to get a "yes".
• Ability to modify negative scripts in ourselves and others – When your child says: "Our team can't win for losing"; redirect with something like, "You made a really good shot and I'm proud of you".
• Addresses the problem without laying the blame. Blame placing wastes time and creates negative results. Move right into the solution: "What do we do now?" Teach your children to ask: "What do we do now?"
• Appreciation of each child's unique temperament.

By setting limits you are letting your child know that you care about her behavior. By letting her share her feelings, you will gain insight into her behavior.

Help your children to understand that they cause their own effects in life, good and bad.

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